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What To Do When Your Relationship Is In A Rut

What To Do When Your Relationship Is In A Rut

Feeling disconnected? Struggling to find time or make time for each other? Every relationship along the way will fall into a rut. Ruts are something that happen, but when we see it happening we need to make a conscious decision to work at breaking out of that rut, or it can ruin a relationship. Below I will share what to do when your relationship is in a rut!

The good news is that if you are in a rut and reading this, you are taking the first steps to try and break out of it. Just because you are less intimate or struggling to connect doesn’t mean you need to separate from each other. It simply means you have to put effort into your relationship that has been struggling.

What To Do When Your Relationship Is In A Rut


The first thing that needs to happen is sitting down and talking about the rut. See if your significant other is feeling the same way. If you are both on the same page, now is the time to figure out ways to break free from that. Being aware that your relationship is less than perfect at the moment will give you the drive to work harder to get it back to where it used to be.


Make sure to take time to spend with each other. If you have a limited budget your date night can be doing something free like strolling through the park, watching the stars at night. Find ways to spend quality time together and remembering why you fell in love. Aim to have date night at least once a week. If your schedule is packed, fit in a mini date, where you spend like an hour together doing something or even talking.

Relationship Bucket List

Sit down together and create fun things you want to do together over the next few months. This is a great way to gain back that old spark. Maybe you want to visit a different state, try sushi for the first time, jump in a cold ocean, etc. Find fun things you can do together to help pass time and work on your relationship.


Making sure to hug, kiss and show affection on a regular basis lets your partner know you care about them and are attracted to them. Make sure to make a point to hold hands, or cuddle with each other. Having that touch aspect can help connect you even more with your significant other.

Self Love

If you find you have been fighting a lot, look at yourself. Work on self-love and taking care of you. Sometimes when we are going through something or struggling we take it out on the people we love the most. This is a good time to work on you, and it might help better your relationship.


At the end of the day, not all relationships are made to last. Give a hard look over the past time you have been together and see if it is salvageable. Try different ways to break free from the rut, but if at the end of the day, you are getting nowhere, it might be time to say goodbye.

Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

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