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What To Do When all is Crashing Down

What To Do When all is Crashing Down

I have been really good at positive thinking, to the point I have been guilty of being told I don’t see things. Almost like others accuse me of having tunnel vision so as to avoid resolve that needs to happen or issues that need to be addressed. While I admit, I don’t much care for confrontation, I would much prefer a peaceful solution to any of the issues that I face in life, I also am realistic and know that no matter how optimistic one is, that not all problems get solved in a peaceful, easy-going way. With that being said, my Mom life world feels like it’s falling apart these days.

Today I write this after cleaning up throw up since Friday and it’s still going on today. I feel tears at the surface, ready to come flowing as soon as I get a moment to break. Perhaps today will be the day I cry in the shower after a few weeks of not crying in the shower for once. I can’t fix the stomach bug that has hit our house, it just has to run its course. I get that. The thing is that there is and was a lot of other things going on prior to the stomach bug hitting.

What To Do When all is Crashing Down

Without Getting Too Personal

This is my year to not getting into too many private details of my personal life online, but as a Mom, it’s still hard not to reach out to my online community for advice. Sometimes when we are in the thick of a situation, an outsiders voice and view can help us see the full picture of what’s going on. Today I write this to get it out of my mind so I can work, take care of two sick kids and move forward without having the three days going on four days of throw up cleanup consume every part of my mental well-being.

Working From Home

I work from home for a reason, to deal with these type of Mom duties. When kids are sick or have health issues, I can deal with it without losing work but I have been so slammed in the past month that I am ready to call MERCY. Such as when you arm wrestle and yell MERCY or UNCLE to give in. The thing is when it comes to Mom life and that job, you can’t just give in. You have to muster up all of your strength, positivity and hope to continue on for another day hoping that the sickies will let go of your kids, that anxiety will get resolved and that the community that works with your kids will help you along the path of getting there.

Way too Much Going On

There really is a lot going on in this household these days and I am so sad that there’s no resolve that can come quickly or make things better and easier with a snap of the finger. I keep swimming forward, but I swear if one person wants to judge me for doing what I need to in order to move on and make a positive environment here, well they can keep that negative to themselves. I know what’s going on, I know what I need to work on and I also know that my kid’s health comes first for me. I am also important, I know that, but right now I am focusing on one thing at a time. Today it’s getting the two kids better, so they can get back to school. Tomorrow, perhaps they are better and I focus on the next thing to deal with.

So what do I do when all of this is going on and I feel like I am just about to be at my breaking point?

• I pause and focus on one thing at a time.
• I take into consideration that Rome wasn’t built in a day and good things come to those who wait and stay focused on positivity.
• I pray {this is unlike me as I don’t pray often} but I have been praying a lot these days for strength and guidance to ensure I keep Faith all will work out.
• I take time to hug my kids more, especially since they’ve been sick.
• I take time to sit with my kids, even if they say nothing, my presence helps them and helps me because I just love being a Mom.
• I try to sleep more, sleep can help your brain stay on track without getting overly anxious or crazy about dealing with too much.

What is it that others do when they feel like this, I am not sure, but I hope you will share your tips on what has worked for you when everything seems like it’s crashing down around you.

Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

1 comment found

  1. Girl, go have that cry in the shower! I bundle my kids up in front of a quiet movie with a bucket and rub some peppermint oil on their shirt. Then I put in the earbuds with some uplifting music or affirmations and use an half a bottle of clorox clean up and laundry soap. I take breaks between rooms to sit and comfort them. I have cereal for dinner because who has energy to cook what won’t be eaten anyway. My kids get toast or saltines. I pretty much put everything else on hold.

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