Brandy Ellen Writes

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Living without Regrets

Living without Regrets

One of the biggest ways I’ve been able to get through life is to learn that I cannot have any regrets. If you think about it, regrets are much like hanging on to an old grudge. If you regret anything in your past, you won’t be able to move forward to present times. I have gone through many counseling sessions in my life, as it’s the tool of choice for me when times become difficult. When my empathetic ways tend to listen to others and care about others before my own dignity and sanity. I’m not talking about parenthood, gosh that’s one of the most rewarding jobs I’ve ever had, I’m talking about when you are faced with business, life or relationship scenarios that may leave you feeling regretful. That is harmful to your soul.

We all make decisions, whether those decisions reap good or a bad result, a lesson is learned. Take that lesson be it good or bad, and move forward to live life fully.

I’ve learned to redirect my mind when I am faced with a situation that can turn me bitter and angry towards another adult. I’ve learned that anger and bitterness are based upon regret and a negative energy that I refuse to have in my life. How have I learned to live without regrets? It’s as simple as this statement,

We all make decisions, whether those decisions reap good or a bad result, a lesson is learned. Take that lesson be it good or bad, and move forward to live life fully.

That’s all you can do in life when it comes to a negative situation, you can fight the good battle for your rights and your emotional well-being to be protected. You can remember right versus wrong and not let your empathetic nature get in the way of knowing what is acceptable and not. You can learn to set healthy boundaries and not fear what the other person will say about that. It’s your life and with that comes the need to know what your personal boundaries are and remain steadfastly confident in those decisions.

We all make decisions, whether those decisions reap good or a bad result, a lesson is learned. Take that lesson be it good or bad, and move forward to live life fully.

Being an Empath

Due to my empathetic nature and insanely caring heart, I tend to let others opinions, feelings and desires go before my own. Perhaps that’s part of my motherly nature? I cannot answer that. I just know that I’ve been very good to people, it’s been shown with the positive community online and in real life that surround me and support me with love and kindness. While I continue to live without regrets and will move forward in a positive direction, it’s not easy when you’re in the middle of a really bad situation. Perhaps my peacekeeping nature and the fact that I have no known enemies, allows me to not fully see the bad in people. I tend to see that small spark of light, even when you should only see darkness.

It’s Okay to Make Your Own Decisions

I wanted to write this today to help tell others know that it’s okay to make your own decisions. It’s okay when those decisions lead you down a destructive path of emotional pain and suffering, physical pain and suffering, heartache, loss and upset, but at some point, you need to acknowledge that is happening. Acknowledge that you deserve better and that the decisions you made were made, you cannot take that back. You can take today to open your eyes to realize that you cannot live with regrets, living with any regrets or bitterness towards a situation or person will only destroy your inner light.

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Live Without Regrets

Today, I invite you to live without regrets. To take time to journal the experiences that haunt you each day, think about those decisions and what you learned from them. How did you take those experiences and turn them into a positive to not allow that to happen again? How can you take those experiences and move forward in life towards a positive direction for yourself?

At the end of the day, we all have a story to tell, make sure yours isn’t full of negativity or else you will miss out on the bigger picture of your beautiful life.

Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

4 comments found

  1. I saw online that you might be having a hard time, so I stopped by to say hello and tell you I’m cheering for you. I agree that everyone makes mistakes, and that when they happen we learn from them and then move forward with our foot on the gas to keep living life fully. Hugs to you! I hope you have smooth waters again soon.

  2. You’re so right! Looking on the bright side and seeing the best in people makes us happier and healthier. Letting go of regrets isn’t always easy. Thanks for the inspiration

  3. This is definitely something I feel many struggle with. Like you, I’m someone who cares too much about others around me that at times it can be a bad thing. I just want to see the good in everyone and sometimes we just need to focus on ourselves instead.

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