Brandy Ellen Writes

NH Blogger|New England Traveler|Positive Thinker|WAHM
Just Because I Believe This and You Believe That …

Just Because I Believe This and You Believe That …

We live …

  • In a world where we have social media to instantly reply to a status that we don’t agree with.
  • In a world where it seems everyone wants everyone else to have the same thoughts, beliefs, and opinions as them.
  • In a world where I’m raising three kids who see these types of examples every single day.
  • In a world where one cannot feel beautiful or handsome because they’re simply arrogant to feel such positive things about who they are.
  • In a world where we may as well be depressed because that’s the only time, we get the most attention.

Just Because I Believe This and You Believe That

Is our World Truly This Negative?

As you can read, it sounds as if our world is a negative one in which everyone is constantly arguing with each other. It can seem like we shouldn’t speak up for what we believe or think or feel. It can seem as though having a high self-esteem isn’t acceptable because how dare we feel great about who we are while another human is suffering.

The thing is, this world isn’t a negative world. Sure, there’s bad in this world and there are people who make bad decisions. There are people who are so broken internally or perhaps just born evil, that they wreak havoc upon other’s lives. There will always be evil and negative in this world, as I personally feel that’s what helps keep things balanced. If not for evil or negativity, would we not know how to grow and learn? Every human being must make a mistake, some of us make larger ones than others, in order to grow, mature and blossom into the human being we’re meant to be.

Why Do Adults Treat Each Other so Badly?

It is extremely frustrating to watch how adults treat each other on social media. For the most part, I haven’t fallen prey to negativity in the same ways as my friends have. The reality is, I don’t talk about my strong personal beliefs or opinions, etc. in the online world because I know that they may not fit the norm. It’s funny to use the sentence “fit the norm” because I know most of us parents raise our kids to be independent, strong and individuals. Yet, here we are as mature adults on social media being the polar opposite example of independent, strong, individuals. Many will argue and shun someone who has a strong belief on the opposite spectrum of them.

This is not how our world is meant to be.

The Beauty of our World

The beautiful part of living in this world is that we are free to be individuals, we are free to live a life that feels fulfilling to us. We are free to live how we deem fit so as long as we’re not causing harm to another human being.

Sometimes my children have strong beliefs that are so far away from my opinions, beliefs and thought patterns. I don’t shun them. I don’t yell at them. I don’t make them change who they are. I work hard to start a conversation with them. I try to ignite passion within their soul to discuss the topics in a safe debate method. Many of us older people grew up having a debate class in high school. I think this was an important part of childhood. Learning how to debate important topics and beliefs without hating on each other.

Trying to be a Good Parent and Example

I try to be that parent. My teenager is extremely passionate about LGBT and rights in that arena. I am often found telling my teen during conversations that I am ignorant of this topic, I want to learn more but please tell me if I use a term that is offensive. If not for my teenager, I may say a term on social media that offends a part of the LGBT community without meaning to. I think the moral of the story is that it’s okay to say we’re uneducated on a certain topic and to forewarn our community that we don’t mean to use terms that hurt them. People will get offended, it’s part of learning to grow and be confident. It’s okay to get offended, that’s the beauty of being a human being.

I think that if you find you’re offended or hurt by a term used online, that you take a moment to educate that person as to why that word or phrase hurts you or how that word or phrase is considered negative. I bet this type of approach will do wonders to bring more kindness into our world.

I hate that so much of our world gets offended and then attacks others. They attack them because they’re hurt. I get it, I have had to work years to not lash out at people verbally because my feelings were hurt. In cases of high emotional responses, we can be quite hateful individuals. We are all guilty of being like this, whether in the privacy of our own home with loved ones or publicly on social media. As a parent, I prefer to work on being emotionally stable. TMI? —> The only exception to this time is when it’s PMS time because all control goes out of the window when I am PMSing it. It’s just how the female hormones work for me.

The beautiful part of living in this world is that we are free to be individuals. We are free to live a life that feels fulfilling to us. We are free to live how we deem fit so as long as we’re not causing harm to another human being.

The desire to See a Beautiful World

With all of this being said, I simply desire to see a world where we can discuss our thoughts and beliefs openly without fearing the lash back from a specific community or person that feels the polar opposite to be the truth. We all have our own truths and stories to tell. We all have our own personal belief system that was built based on how we were raised and what area of the world we live in. Just because I believe this and you believe that, doesn’t make either of us wrong or bad, it makes us unique individuals.

The beautiful part of living in this world is that we are free to be individuals. We are free to live a life that feels fulfilling to us. We are free to live how we deem fit so as long as we’re not causing harm to another human being.Click To Tweet

I say we start celebrating individuality and stop labeling people or attacking people. That’s not what makes us stronger. Damaging another human being’s confidence shouldn’t make you feel good and it sure as heck doesn’t make that person feel good. I am asking today that we learn to embrace our differences, we learn to accept that we may be uneducated on a certain topic and that’s okay! I am asking that we share more kindness and less meanness. Let us be the example to our future generation of adults by embracing each other for our similar bond – being a human who just wants to live in peace and happiness.

Much love to all.

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4 comments found

  1. So many people need to read this. We can all get along even with differences but people can be so nasty!

  2. Very true what you are saying. Unfortunately some people just want to be mean and nasty and purposely offending.

  3. Debate without hate would make life so much easier. I can’t even share my beliefs anymore without someone calling me a hater.

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