Brandy Ellen Writes

NH Blogger|New England Traveler|Positive Thinker|WAHM
Now This is a Story all About How …

Now This is a Story all About How …

My life got flipped turned upside down.

Okay well not really. This is a story all about how my life went from working outside of the home Mama to a blogger and ghostwriter. From the year 2006 when I first came home to work full time while pregnant with my middle kiddo to the current stage of dealing with being a single mom who experienced a pretty traumatic situation. I am going to sum up the last 12 years in a blog post. It’s about time I shared a bit about who I am, where I came from and why I am now known as Brandy Ellen Enterprises not Happily Blended Blog.

Enjoy …

This is a Story All About how Brandy Ellen Came to Be

First and foremost, the reason I do everything that I do online is for these three amigos right here. Above you will see a fun photo depicting the personalities that live in my home. I, tend to be the smiling optimistic lady with a side of Mama Bear that can come out to play if you hurt my trio. The middle kiddo {son with Asperger’s} tends to be serious with a side of smiles when the timing is right. The eldest is a teenager and is pretty freaking smart as well as funny. The youngest kiddo is all comedian with a side of cynical. We have now called the youngest kiddo, “9 year old going on 90” because of his thinking about the world around us. These three are known as my trio. I refer to the kiddos as the trio all of the time online in social media and in real life. They are my world and reason for going on to be strong no matter what.

Thank you to the trio for bringing the light out from my heart and helping it shine.

Now, this is a Story All About … 2006

This is a story all about how

Back in 2006, I don’t quite remember what life was like. I do remember that I was pregnant with the middle kiddo and things were a little crazy. I don’t do well with pregnancy. Pregnancy really wasn’t a happy experience for me. I didn’t much like the hormonal roller coaster or being sick with that normal pregnancy nausea. I did, however, love that moment that I first met each of these kiddos in real life. In 2006 when I first decided to come home full time, I dabbled in direct sales. I started a blog on Blogger at some point called Writings of a WAHM. This blog was created to showcase the products, deals and other tidbits of information to inspire other moms to make a living work at home.

I became quite successful running direct sales and mostly being a leader to those consultants underneath me. I am still connected to many women who were part of this stage in my life. They also were great at direct sales and we used to do chat parties in Ning or something where we would host online parties to make more money. I really enjoyed learning about sales and direct sale marketing. I outgrew it, obviously, but I still sell Avon on the side.

 

Now, this is a Story All About … Blogging Beginnings

Somewhere in late 2008, I started blogging using the Blogger platform. This was called Writings of a WAHM. I was using it to share my direct sale products and business opportunities after being told that blogging was the thing to do for income. I have always enjoyed writing and so I dove in head first. Eventually, somewhere in 2009 I switched to self-hosted WordPress and rebranded to Happily Blended. This was my home away from home until October 2016. I built the Happily Blended brand about as far as it could go and a person who had been paying me for sponsored posts had asked about purchasing my blog as well as the Happily Blended social media accounts. At the time, my now ex-boyfriend, and I discussed the opportunity and it made sense and I am pretty sure at that time, the money sounded nice. There was a lot of needs that simply were breaking my back and selling my “baby” made sense. I sold Happily Blended and decided to focus back on BrandyEllen.com as well as start up a parenting blog called ParentInfluence. I enjoyed being Happily Blended, it brought me many sponsorships, ambassador programs with brands like Ovaltine and Kmart as well as travel opportunities such as traveling to NYC with Ragu and to a blog conference in NC. I was ready to move on though, and the timing was right back then to just sell it.

Brandy Ellen Sold Happily Blended in October 2016

Now, this is a Story All About … Learning WordPress and Minor Code

I took many advanced computer courses in high school but we’re talking Frontpage stuff and I don’t think anyone uses that anymore. I knew the basics of HTML but self-hosted WordPress is CSS based. I have found that the basic code changes I wanted to make within WordPress themes didn’t require a lot of knowledge beyond what I already knew. I had to teach myself how to transfer a blog from blogger to self-hosted WordPress, which by the way is a tedious process. I had to teach myself how to create a header for a blog and a favicon as well as upload those and code them into the WordPress theme so that they actually showed up in an accurate way. All of my blogging stuff has always been mine. It isn’t anything I have hired others to do except for one time when I had a barter deal with a designer to design this site for my virtual assistant business I ran more often than blogging quite a few years back. I also have hired a lady to help with the whole SSL stuff that was recently launched. I taught myself everything to do with blogging to save money, I didn’t have the funds and didn’t want to spend all of that money on a blog when I could easily take the time to enhance my basic HTML knowledge. Now people hire me to do these basic changes. Things I offer as a service currently include switching a blog from blogger to self-hosted WordPress, this includes dealing with the hosting and getting into CPANEL, setting up a CPANEL email for clients and tweaking a self-hosted WordPress blog so that it’s organized and SEO is up to par.

 

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Now, this is a Story All About … Where I’m at Now

I was in a relationship for 2.5 years with someone who is a PHP coder. He brought to my world a good partner in business, or so I thought. While on the surface the skills were great and he knows his stuff, the business code of ethics I have wasn’t a match and I found that out in time. I fell in love with him and dove into business. I ignored red flags and I didn’t set boundaries in the first year that I should have set. There were a ton of red flags and even anonymous warnings about my ex in that first year. I ignored everything that made sense and just kept going forward with this, now ex-boyfriend. When I finally stood up for what I felt was right for myself and my children, things started getting scarier than they were before. Even in the first year, I knew this man had a pretty rough response to things that didn’t align with what he believed or how he wanted things to go. In time I also have learned that he has told people he built my blogs, which is a 100% lie. I have also noticed other things that were happening and just now opening my eyes to the reality of just how little privacy and ability to be successful I had during this relationship. To say I am shocked is a lie, I knew what this man had done to other woman and since we ran a business together, things went beyond what he’d done to others. He literally repeated his history of what he’s done to other women. I am hurt, my trust in men is broken, I am broken, but I am not shocked. I knew who this man was but had hoped everyone else was telling me lies and that perhaps he really did “love” me …I thought I was different somehow, special? Eh, I am just a girl who fell for it all. 

This is a story all about how

 

I am finally back on my own, as a single mom and working to get myself back to being who I was before this craziness happened. With that being said, any blogs I run are mine. They were mine from day one, I built them by myself and my followers were built by me. I am disappointed to find out that my ex-boyfriend told people that he built these or helped build them. I will not have my ex-boyfriend take any credit for the blogs and social media accounts I built. I am no longer in business with this man and I am no longer in a relationship with this man. I have a domestic violence protective/restraining order in effect for one-year because a judge granted this as an extension of the temporary one I received after reviewing the police statements/report and other facts. The details of those facts and statements are not something I will discuss online.

I am now ready to move forward as a single mom because the idea of allowing any other man into my life sounds scary to me, I did love my ex-boyfriend so very much and I trusted him up until a certain point. Now is the time for me to focus on healing and moving forward. I need to rebuild my bond with my trio, my confidence, my trust in people and my ability to acknowledge that I am a successful work at home mom and I am successful because of my true friends, my amazing clients, and my family who’ve been there for many years watching me grow. I am successful for my loyalty and honesty in business. I am successful because no matter what life throws at me, I stay true to who I am and continue on focused on a mission to be strong again.

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Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

25 comments found

  1. Good for you, sometimes you have to make major changes once you’re able to see things for what they are. I wish you luck in your future endeavors.

  2. What an amazing blessing that you have been able to work from home! Life brings such hard times our way. I wish it weren’t so sometimes, but we do grow through them. May you continue to thrive.

  3. It sounds like you have a great plan for your life! Working from home is a wonderful thing! We started our blogs in a similar way. I too was in direct sales and I was having babies and wanting to find something more to do. I started on the Blogger platform and now run several blogs on WordPress. 😉

  4. Sounds like you have had a lot going on in the past couple of years. It has definitely been a journey, and it sounds like things are looking in the right direction.

  5. Sounds like you have come a long way. Blogging has been amazing for me and I love it but feel like I need to take some time to reflect as well. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Such a nice post and it is nice to know that you are able to work at home and your own stuff. Changing is a major thing, I do love reading your post.

  7. Your journey is not easy but glad to know you are successful and better now. Change is constant and we should what we think is best for ourselves.

  8. It sounds like you’ve had a lot going on. Our journeys are never really easy either. Sounds like you’re doing a lot better now, so that’s great too.

  9. I love that you have built so many successful blogs. I remember your blogger blog! I am still on Blogger, but I am finding I can do what I want on it. If I ever want to change, I know where to come to!

  10. Sometimes life throws these challenges at you to help you grow as a person. Congrats on doing what’s best for you

  11. It’s such a blessing to be able to work from home. Sometimes a curse too…when I look around me and see that I need to do the laundry or something!

  12. I am proud of you sharing this story and hope it will inspire other mamas who might feel stuck in a bad relationship. Im hoping things look up for you the remainder of the year. The “lies” are a just a distraction to try and break you. Don’t give up. You got this mama.

  13. It is so amazing being able to work from home, it also usually feels like a nonstop gig. No more punching a time clock, but I wouldn’t change it for the world! Congrats on your journey!

  14. I’m sorry to hear the path was filled with so many hurdles, but what you have accomplished is awesome! You have a thriving business and are rocking mom life with your trio.

  15. So proud of you and how you are moving ahead and making the changes you need to for yourself and your kiddos. I’m proud to know you, Brandy.

    1. Thank you, very much. I am glad that we are friends. I appreciate you taking the time to leave me such a kind comment. xo

    1. Thank you. Every day is a work in progress. I am learning to be more confident in certain areas. I’ve always thought good about who I am, I just hate to hurt people’s feelings but at the end of the day – I need to stand up for what is right and acceptable as well as stand up for the truth 🙂

  16. I sang the entire Fresh Prince theme song while I read this! Good luck on the future, it sounds like it is going to be great!

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