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11 Things Single Moms Can Do When Kids are Away

11 Things Single Moms Can Do When Kids are Away

Being a single mom honestly has never bothered me.  That’s not to say I don’t feel sad or lonely at times or I wonder if I’ll ever have a relationship. Okay, I honestly don’t think about relationships, no time for that stuff. I do, however, get bored sometimes. The last time I found myself as a single mom I couldn’t stand being alone. The silence drove me crazy. While I didn’t mind being alone as a single human, I just preferred the company of others. This is why I spent most of my kid-free weekends with family. I would visit my Dad, my sister and sometimes my Mom, basically, anyone that would let me be their company, I was there.

This time around as a single mom, I really don’t feel like going anywhere. It’s not that I am depressed, or have no desire to be around humans, well, okay so it really sort of is that I lack the desire to be around humans for too long. It’s been a long time since I could hear my own thoughts. I was circle talked so much and manipulated in so many ways that I am fully enjoying the magnificent beauty of actually being able to think for myself. While I do enjoy the silent time, there’s also plenty of time to go and do something FUN. Today I’m sharing 11 things single moms can do when kids are away so that you too can find some peace and happiness in your life as a single mom.

11 Things Single Moms Can Do When Kids are Away

11 Things Single Moms Can Do When Kids are Away

1) Eat Mom Food

Indulge in some food that you never cook or order out when the kids are around. You know what I’m talking about, those items that the kids simply dislike so much that you’ve sworn off buying or making such meals ever again around the kids. Eat that mom food and enjoy it!


2) Have Moms Night In

Call all of your friends, have them call other friends and gather around in home for a moms night in together. Surely this will be a great way to socialize, catch up with the latest happenings and enjoy good company sans kids.

3) Do Something New

This is a hard one for me because of my anxiety I sort of used to avoid such ideas, but now with the new and improved me, I am ready to fight off all of those fears and go for it. I have many new things I have been trying and will continue to add to that bucket list.


4) Take a Road Trip

This is perfect for any single mom who enjoys driving. I am getting back to the idea of taking a road trip by myself, but not quite there yet. The road trips I used to take were surely something that started to suck and I am not ready to relive the memories just yet.

5) Take a Bubble Bath

This is one of my favorite things to do when my kids are away. I get to go into my bedroom, shut the door, put on some music and fill up my jacuzzi tub with some bubbles and warm water. I sit back, relax and honestly the last time I did this, I fell asleep for a little bit, oops! Turn your bath into a jacuzzi.


6) Phone a Friend

You know how it goes when you’re a single mom and have kids in the house, phone calls are a no way in hell is that happening in peace. Since the kids are away and you’re a single mom, hop on that phone and chat it up with an old friend for an hour. I mean, obviously, check in first to make sure your friend is available.

7) Go on a Date

Hey, if you’re single there’s nothing wrong with going out on a dinner date. Just don’t bring the person back to your house because that could lead to having a stalker on your hands and nobody has time for that crap. Ask a close friend to hook you up on a blind date or something, it will be fun!


8) Binge Watch Netflix

I actually did this the first weekend I had no kids again. I binge-watched two of the old series that I loved on Netflix and boy was it ever so much fun. I ordered Chinese food and sat there eating it up while watching my shows and didn’t worry about a thing!

9) Go to the Beach

This is something I really enjoy, even with kids. The reason I love going to the ocean without kids on occasion is that I can be more relaxed. I am not watching to make sure they don’t go out too deep or whatever when I go alone, I can walk along the sand and simply relax. I love Hampton Beach.


10) Clean the House

Now is the time to throw away or donate all of the things that the kids don’t even touch anymore. When I am kid-free, I love cleaning the house. This is by far my favorite thing to do. It’s wonderful to clean it on a Saturday morning and enjoy two days of cleanliness before my kids arrive home and destroy it in 10 minutes.

11) Sleep In

This is the last on my list of things a single mom can do when they’re kid-free, but it’s seriously one of my favorite options. I rarely get to sleep in because those boys of mine wake up far too early EVERY SINGLE DAY of the week. I enjoy sleeping in when the kids are gone to their Dads, it makes me happy.


There you have it 11 things a single mom can do when you find yourself kid-free. I know many single moms don’t have a regular routine of kid-free days or weekends, but even with one day free here and there, these ideas will surely keep you relaxed and enjoying the adult side of life while raising kids alone.

Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

16 comments found

  1. Some great ideas here. It can be hard when the children are home to do things for yourself without the children needing or wanting something 🙂

    1. Yes, it can be hard when kids are home. Mine are older now, not super old but old enough so I do get me time often these days even when they’re around.

  2. I loved reading this post. I praise all the single moms out there daily. I think you all are courageous and love when Moms choose to lead a meaningful life with their kids and apart from their kids. Being a parent doesn’t meant forgetting about yourself and all these tips you provided states that. Great post!

    1. Thank you. Yes, very important that parents remember to remain independent woman as well as a mom. We can wear both hats.

  3. Even if I am not a single mom, I can do all these things when the kids are away. Especially the go on a date part. Hubby and I would appreciate a nice night out without the kids. 😀

    1. That is very true, great ideas for anyone without kiddos. Having a date night with your spouse is important too!

  4. No kids yet but pretty much what I do when I give myself a day off from all blogging activities and adulting lol. Netflix and Hulu bingeing, eating whatever and/or just sleeping in. Lol.

  5. Great post! I was a single mum for a few years and I used to really try and cherish my child free time instead of moping about!

    1. I am trying to cherish my time now too. I only get about 4 days a month, if that, but I am taking it and enjoying it

  6. Haha I love this post! I know so many people who feel guilty about enjoying time away from their kids and you never should! Enjoy a rest.

    1. Yes, many do. I embrace it. I tell my kids all of the time, have all of their life – we need to miss each other in order to be grateful and love each other. Otherwise, I am going to go crazy! Need a break from that life to be able to appreciate it.

  7. I’d treat myself to a bubble bath or go for a dinner date. Anyway, these activities sound awesome in keeping any single mom engaged and not lonely even when the kids are not around.

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