Brandy Ellen Writes

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Keep Faith, Refuse Hate, Circle of Friends, and Embrace the Different

Each time I think that life is going well and I’ve started to climb upwards, something happens to throw me back a few steps. My most recent experiences have led from one place to another place and ultimately here at this very moment where sometimes it’s difficult to fall asleep. There’s a lot weighing on my mind and there’s a lot of responsibilities on my shoulders. I have come to accept that this is simply part of being an adult. My optimistic mind won’t let me focus on the woes or negative scenarios that led me to my current scenario. I refuse to let what has happened in previous times bring me down any further. I much prefer to focus on what needs to get done, find my happy balance and move forward. This mindset is easy to do when you’ve learned that things can always get worse. This mindset takes practice but with practice makes perfection.

Today I’m going to share a few tips with you on how to think about bad times so that you automatically work towards solutions versus dwelling in what could have been or what has been.

Keep Faith, Refuse Hate, Circle of Friends, and Embrace the Different

Keep Faith refuse Hate Circle of Friends and Embrace the Different

How to Think Negative

You can sit back and think about all that’s happened to cause chaos in your life. It’s easy to think about how your trust was betrayed, how your kindness was taken for a run or how you’re now faced living in a situation you weren’t planning on. You can focus on all of those negative thoughts, without effort. If you want to think negatively, you sure can. That’s completely your decision. Thinking negative, though, doesn’t take much strength, it comes naturally to our protective brain. If you want to stop thinking negative and learn how to be a bit stronger, then please continue reading for some tips on how you can change your pattern of thinking to live a beautiful, successful and happy life.


Keep the Faith

I’ve always said that things simply work out for me. This doesn’t mean that I don’t suffer or have bad things happen, obviously, I am a human being who has lessons to learn still. Bad things do happen to me, and I’m not as vocal about them on the blog because I prefer to focus on how to climb back up. The bad things that happen could make me sulk for weeks, they were hurtful and felt easier to sulk. I decided to keep the Faith instead. I wanted to remain strong and confident that while this current stage in my life may hurt my heart, it is only temporary. I lay my head down to bed each night praying for the strength and positive guidance needed to become stronger and make positive changes.

Refuse to Hate

I really dislike the word hate. It’s something I have taught my kids to refrain from using because it’s such a deep emotional word that I feel isn’t something we all truly feel. Hate is a word that means something so brutally negative that I couldn’t imagine feeling it on a regular basis. I honestly have been pretty darn close to this hate feeling many times in my life, but I refuse to hate. I believe that my mission to refuse to hate anyone or anything in life has helped me to move forward from tough times. I may be more aware of the bad in people and I may see things I don’t like, but hate is such a strong word that it has become something I refuse to feel. I believe my ability to refuse the strong, negative emotion of hate helps me to remain positive in moving forward. Instead of hating people or situations, learn to embrace that we all have our flaws and hating someone for their unique flaws is only going to destroy your kind heart.

Circle of Friends

This one is hard, I tend to be nice to everyone. If someone isn’t nice to me, I don’t lash back at them. I don’t believe in revenge at all. I only believe in positivity and uplifting each other. I’ve learned the hard way that some friendships are toxic and while they may be good people with a kind heart, they simply are too focused on negativity and refuse to see the light. I’ve learned I can’t help everyone see the light, so instead of trying to be that one friend who gets emotionally drained by toxic friendships, I’ve learned to step back from those type of friends. I keep my circle of friends small and have learned that those who I keep around me must have a good outlook on their life and their future. They don’t need to live a certain way or be a certain type of person, so to speak, I just like my circle of friends to be people who know we all should keep each other on par with positive thinking and moving forward. My circle of friends always put my mind back to something good.

Embrace the Different

Life may have thrown you such a curveball that you’re living in a way you never thought you’d live. Perhaps you’re living apart from your kids when you’ve spent so many years being the predominant caregiver. Perhaps you’re living in a smaller place and had to downsize the things that you own. While these type of examples, living differently, can harm your self-confidence or make you feel like you failed, don’t let it! Remember it’s easier to think negative. If you learn to embrace the different, whatever “the different” is, you’ll soon find that you’re more accepting of your current situation and will work harder to change it into something that makes you feel better. The best way I’ve learned to embrace the different is to remind myself this is only temporary, we are cared for, we have food, and a roof over our head – my kids and me. Things could be a lot worse, this helps me remain grateful for the family and circle of friends I do have by my side while embracing the different.

You Got This!

Whether you’ve been faced with a significant hardship or some trying times that may not be so dramatic, you have choices. You can choose to let your mind control you, or you can choose to Keep the Faith, Refuse to Hate, change your Circle of Friends and Embrace the Different. Personally, I have found in my almost 37 years or life that doing the few things I shared today help me become more confident, stronger, and emotionally stable than if I were to just let my anxious mind take control of me.

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” — Willie NelsonClick To Tweet

I hope that you are able to find a way to climb up out of the hardship you’re facing. I hope that you remember your worth and value as a human being. I hope that you refuse to let hate breed in your heart and I hope and pray that you have a circle of friends who remind you that this is only temporary, you can change your circumstances if you remain positive and focused on what you do want in life.

Brandy Ellen is a born and raised NH resident who enjoys living life to the fullest. Raising 3 kids and a pug, Brandy spends her free time writing for her two blogs – ParentInfluence and Brandy EllenWrites. Brandy is also a ghostwriter for other blogs, click here to hire Brandy to write for you.

3 comments found

  1. Positive kind positive life! I have gotten pretty good at refusing to let bad things get to me. Hating people and things takes up too much time. Wish I would have figured that out sooner in life lol

  2. These are great affirmations and words to live by. As I get older, I am only surrounding myself with people positive people!

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