Being a giver is a great quality. There’s nothing wrong with being a person who wants to make sure that everyone is happy and getting what they need. I believe the problem with the giver personality is that they will give and give until they break. At times, the giver is someone that another person will fall madly in love with. Then as they work to live together and move the relationship forward, this giver realizes that all they gave in that honeymoon phase of the relationship made them exhausted. The giver is now drained and needs some pick me upper to get back on track. Sadly, when this happens the other person doesn’t listen anymore or feel the same bond as the bond was built based on how much you gave to that person of your time, heart and soul. It becomes a broken situation.
5 Reasons Being Too Giving Hurts You
When two adults decide to live together and there are children involved. A parent must put the responsibilities of raising children above all else, especially when said kids have their own stuff going on that require extra parental monitoring and assistance. This can hurt you in your relationship when you are not in said relationship with the parent of your children for they will feel left out of this area.
Often times givers are more sensitive than other human beings. We have this higher level of empathy that makes us feel energy from others. We often give too much because we feel for the person we love and we want nothing more than to make the situation less tense. This sensitive nature will ultimately hurt you because it will drain you trying to mend things that you can’t mend.
A person who tends to be too giving will love deeper than most and remain loyal longer than most. If you are too giving with your heart and forgiveness then you will get hurt. A person who is too giving with their heart will pay the price because you will continue to give your heart and loyalty to someone who doesn’t appreciate it and they will catch on to that. You can be taken for granted in this scenario.
Go Into Debt
Someone who gives too much can often find that they go into debt. This is a scenario where the person who gives too freely is giving cash or helping someone financially more than they should. You can go into debt if you are handing off loans thinking the person who never paid you back before, will pay you back. Be wary of who you lend money to, a giver can easily find themselves in debt.
A person who gives too much will often turn a blind eye to what’s really going on behind the scenes. They will ignore the red flags and continue on giving no matter what happens. People who give too much experience that higher level of empathy which means they will find a way to feel bad or feel something towards the person hurting them and continue giving their heart until it’s too late.
Being a Giver is Good
While being someone who gives because they enjoy it is a good quality to have, there comes a point where you must look in the mirror and ask if you are being too giving. People can take advantage of your giving personality without trying to be malicious. You may be dating someone who is more selfish than you because they never had to be selfless, this would be a non-malicious way to hurt a giver. If you have found yourself in a situation where you wonder if you gave too much, then perhaps it’s time to seek therapy to help sort through those thoughts.
Being too giving and getting hurt doesn’t make you the bad person, it simply means that you need some guidance in giving the right amount of time and love to situations that are actually worth your loyalty and time in that way.