I’ve heard the saying and I’m sure you have too. “Time heals all wounds” But does time really heal emotional wounds? Can time truly be something that heals us from various experiences, emotional pain, or any other challenge we’ve faced? What do you think?
I’m going to share my thoughts as to whether I feel time heals emotional wounds or not. I’m starting off with an example that came to me in the shower …
No, childbirth isn’t usually an emotional wound, but it’s a pretty physically painful experience. I remember after my firstborn child came out, I was never having a child again. I was in pain. No way. No how. Labor sucked. Over time, I healed. I forgot the pain I felt when she was born. I merely remember the loving moment of meeting my child for the first time.
Does Time Heal Emotional Wounds?
So I say, in some ways, time does heal you. Time may be magical and help you forget the emotions attached to a situation, but does it really “heal you”?
Just Give it Time
You’ve heard it time and time again. After you experienced heartbreak, emotional abuse, or disappointment in some form, the best of people will tell you to hang in there, time heals all wounds. While these people may have your best interest at heart, time isn’t a healer on its own. It can reduce immediate emotions and pain, but it doesn’t heal everything to do with emotional pain.
Time Takes the Edge Off
As with my reference to childbirth, time doesn’t heal the pain but rather takes the edge off. You may start off feeling sad, angry, or frustrated about an experience that left you emotionally wounded. Over time, you don’t feel those feelings as strongly as you did within the first day, week, month, or even year. Time takes the edge off of the intense feelings of emotional wounds.
Busyness is Focusing on Time
When you’ve experienced an emotional wound of sorts, you tend to dive into life. You start getting busy. You keep yourself so busy that you don’t have time to pause and truly feel much of anything. Many people who’ve experienced emotional wounds confuse busyness with time healing their emotional wounds. Busyness will wear off, and you’ll find that no matter how many years you stay busy, the feelings will come back the moment you refrain from staying busy.
In conclusion, you probably can tell that I don’t believe time heals emotional wounds. I do believe that time combined with counseling or some form of therapy can help heal emotional wounds, though. I believe time is merely a part of the equation to finding true healing deep within your soul.
I know that you’ll never be the same person again after experiencing emotional wounds. I believe that once you’ve experienced some sort of deep emotional scarring, that you never quite return to being the person you were prior to that event. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, emotional abuse, or any other emotional wound we humans experience, we will heal but we’ll also return as a new version of our previous self.