Watering a relationship isn’t easy. Often times one can sit down and realize that their partner is one way with others and has stopped being that way with them. As relationships go on and times get difficult, it’s easier to be kind to strangers than it is to work on the relationship that should matter most to you. Relationships are tricky but they really don’t have to be. Often times we neglect to communicate properly to our partner so that they understand there’s something missing, an emptiness that is sucking the relationship dry. When one tries to communicate such feelings they may be dismissed, create an argument or ultimately ruin the relationship.
A person speaking up for their feelings of loneliness when in a relationship, or the desire to have a spark back in their life shouldn’t cause ill feelings. It takes two to tango so if you are feeling alone in the relationship then two of you need to talk, work through it and make positive change. If these things do not happen and you continuously feel left out, not treated the same and watch as your partner is their spunky self with strangers, the relationship will continue to get damaged.
Every person’s expectations of what a relationship is are different. There is no one answer fits all solution when it comes to learning how to water your relationship. Often times the female feels left out in the cold, she’s dealing with emotions from hormones or perhaps pregnancy that make her feel less than. When a female starts to feel alone, the man doesn’t always pick up on that. He continues on in his world, knowing he is committed to this lady of his but neglects to see that she’s slowly withering away from the relationship.
This is where communication comes into play. There has to be a way for the woman who is feeling alone to talk to her man without the man feeling like he’s failed or neglected things. Both partners in a relationship can neglect things without realizing. When life is coming down on you and you now are faced with having to struggle thru something that the partner won’t feel, you just don’t know how to explain it. Being in a safe relationship means that you should be able to speak up about feeling alone without it stirring up angry responses or worse yet, being not spoken to.
Life Isn’t Easy
Life isn’t easy but it’s much harder when you feel alone when surrounding by your loved one. What hurts the most is watching your partner act as if they are their own person to others but within the four walls you live in, everything is completely different. Sometimes you see that partner being social, borderline flirtatious, even hilarious to others yet with you? There’s nothing. It’s the everyday mundane life of no sparks, no fun conversations, just life passing you both by.
Get Up, Stand Up
If you are in this position where the relationship is pulling you down, then you need to get up, stand up and be confident because regardless of what is going on in the relationship, you are a person who deserves happiness. If you want the happiness with your partner to be back, then it’s time to get on the same page because after months of these lonely feelings passing, both will simply withdraw and pull away which will ultimately lead to you keeping busy and building your business and life without your partner.