Game Of Dates | Brandy Ellen Writes

Dating is difficult. It’s like putting yourself on the market and waiting for an offer. In no other situation do we need someone’s approval to that extent. And, if a rejection comes, it can be a real blow to your confidence. You may feel you have to lower your market value to get the offer you want. First things first; you should NEVER have to lower your value! You are a beautiful, strong woman, and you deserve a man who wants you for you. To stop your confidence taking a knock, it’s important to get your dating game as good as it can be. Let’s assume the guy’s already attracted to you. He’s agreed to a date, right? All you have to do is act right, and wave goodbye to rejection.

Feel Good About your Appearance

Appearance plays a huge part in dating. It would be naive to assume otherwise. A man is making a judgment about you in a short amount of time. He hasn’t got much else to go on. At this early stage, the relationship is based on a primal level. He will only want to move forward if he sees you as a viable mate. But, as we’ve already mentioned, he wouldn’t be dating you if he wasn’t interested. So, you don’t need to worry about impressing him as much as you might think. Instead, spend time on your appearance to make yourself feel good. If you feel beautiful, you’ll be more confident and more appealing. Start by getting a new haircut and a new outfit. Find haircut inspiration on sites like theperfecthairstyle, and hit the shops for the perfect outfit. It doesn’t hurt to do something new with your makeup, either. Just make sure you practice before the night. You could do without disasters!

Give and Take

Some dating advice tells you to ask questions, and not talk about yourself. In truth, a successful date is based on give and take. Your date doesn’t want to hear you talk about yourself all night. But, he needs to learn something about you! Make sure to ask plenty of questions, but to answer his too. You could even throw some facts in about yourself when he’s answering the questions you ask. Finding common ground is always good, so pick out any similarities between you as he speaks. But, make sure you’re not interrupting, or turning the conversation back to you all the time. Make your comment, then ask a related question to show him you’re still listening.

Don’t Assume He’s Paying

Long gone are the days when a guy automatically pays for a date. This is particularly important if you’re going out for a meal. Don’t sit back when the bill comes and make no effort to help. That’s no way to impress a guy, and can come across as rude. Instead, get your wallet out just in case. Chances are, he’ll insist on paying anyway. But, an assumption is no way to get a second date!