Sometimes in life, you can feel ugly. You can start to feel underappreciated, and start to live in this self-pity mode. It happens to the best of us. Why do I write about relationships in addition to work from home, positive living, and parenthood online? Well because it all intertwines. Sometimes when we feel like our world is crashing down on us, everything else falls apart.
At times I start to feel ugly, I feel as if I have made some bad choices. I feel like questioning everything. Often times this could be blamed on anxiety, but if my anxiety is getting that high, then what’s going on? You see I am a firm believer that if anxiety is on high then something is off-kilter in your life. So what happens when you start to feel like there’s no feeling left, you’ve lost that shine, and nothing seems to fit like it used to?
Duh, you get back on the positive mindset train. Silly goose!
No, really. You take time to evaluate what’s going on in your life. You take time to determine your thoughts. What is triggering these feelings? Why do you feel unworthy of success, love, and happiness?
[azonpress_tables id=”20″]The answers will vary depending upon the individual, of course, but the method in which you bring yourself back to reality may be more similar than you realize.
How to Get Back on the Happy Train When Life Sucks
Remember that you matter most!
I don’t care what your partner says or is doing. I don’t care if your best friend is whining to you all of the time. I don’t care about any other person except YOU. You need to get back into this mindset of putting yourself first, if the relationship fails because you were doing what you needed to do to get back on cloud 9, oh well.
Sometimes there are repercussions for things we must do to feel whole. You have to first be confident that you are going to take charge of yourself again and not let anxiety fuel the questions of the final outcome.
Set some business and personal goals!
It’s important to always have goals that you are working towards and achieving. Sure a work from home professional may have to focus on making cash to pay the bills, which takes away from the ultimate dream of your success, but if you focus just an hour each day towards your goals in both personal and business life, you will start to feel accomplished.
When you start to feel accomplished, your anxiety subsides and your mood is uplifted. This is difficult for people like me who give and give, but you have to learn that you can only give so much before you break. Do not allow yourself to break for others!
Do something you enjoy!
Whatever you enjoy in life is a necessary part of you. Sometimes we get into business, relationships and parenthood then all of our fun gets sucked away. This doesn’t have to be the case, you can run a home business, have a beautiful relationship and raise children while enjoying the things that matter most to you.
In addition to setting some goals, try to set aside some time to focus on doing something that you enjoy. You must have joy in your life in order to start to get back on that happy train.
Get the “I Don’t Care” Mentality!
Give up on worrying about your partner and children so much. Your partner is a grown adult and after time you may feel like you have given just so much that you are depleted; let your partner figure some things out on their own while you work towards hopping back on that happy train. Your children can survive without you helicopter parenting them too, believe me, they will be okay.
Get in touch with your inner “I don’t care” attitude and place priority back on yourself. This type of push for yourself will ultimately make your parenting and relationship life be much more awesome, trust me!
Do not play the Blame Game!
If you are fearful that your children and your partner will distance themselves from you, well go ahead and play the blame game {note this is sarcasm}. That’s the first way to get rid of anyone who cares about you. Remember that your unworthy feelings, your anxiety, and this depression that is sucking the life out of you, is no one’s fault.
To be honest, I don’t even think it’s your fault; it’s simply part of being a human being. My last bit of advice is to be wary of blaming anyone else for your own feelings, focus more on solutions and getting you back than pointing fingers at others.
These Books will Help You
Some of the below books will help you move forward to get back on that happy train! While it’s okay to feel down, sad and anxious about life, it’s never healthy to stay stuck in that position.
Do your best to speak to professionals who can help you, speak with friends who can guide you, and use my tips to help work on self-discipline to get yourself back on a more positive path for a healthier future.
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[azonpress_tables id=”19″]You are Not Selfish
We live in a society where it’s perceived that we are selfish when we take care of our own needs. There’s a balance in all areas of life that is acceptable. If you are having the life sucked out of you because your world is spinning around and you feel completely lost, ugly and unworthy then you must whack out of it.
Do what I shared today, take these tips and hold them close to your heart. Start to get you back and if other things fall apart, then they weren’t meant to be. You cannot control what other people feel or do, but you can control how you feel and what you do to make yourself feel better!