I try to stay away from Facebook more often than I used to. I told you the other day that I removed some time wasters, one was the FB app from my smartphone. The reason for this is because scrolling through my newsfeed started to deplete me of my own positivity.
Now, I’m not connected to a lot of negative people. It’s not their personality or negativity that’s diminishing my spirit. It’s the constant telling someone else what to do, judging other people for how they handle things and criticizing others for not taking EVERYONE IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD into consideration.
Listen, we’are already a pretty stressed society. The pressure we put on ourselves and others is just getting exhausting to me. I made a vow for this year, after much stress and trauma, that I would put my life and health first. Period.
Because I’m tired of living in a world where everyone’s telling you what to do.
Isn’t it exhausting taking offense so much?
Isn’t it exhausting twisting other people’s words into some evil intention?
I mean, is that really who we’ve become in this world?
I am just tired of it all. If you want to panic about COVID-19 or whatever, do it. If you want to use words that “aren’t going with the proper politically correct term” do it. If you want to say this truth and that is false, then do it.
I can’t stop you and neither can anyone else in my newsfeed.
I’m okay with that.
I used to think that I needed to be similar to that. I had to take a side or defend certain words and how they can offend people.
It was stressful.
I wasn’t happy.
We are not politically correct in our home, although I do try to educate my kids about what words can hurt other people’s feelings, it’s not something I can stop someone from doing.
I’m in that final stage of raising a kid who’s almost an adult along with having an 11 and 13-year-old. This means that I’ve learned it doesn’t matter how much you guide, dictate or educate, people will be who they are.
I firmly believe that a kid is who they are around age 6-9 years old. That is when their core values are established and it seems after that, it’s just icing on the cake or not. Period.
I’ve watched this with my Trio so I firmly believe this theory. True of false, it’s just what I’ve seen based on my experiences as a mom and caregiver to my sister when she was younger and many others.
My kids do stuff and say stuff that I swear I didn’t teach them but we live in a world where you find anything on the internet as truth. Our kids are growing up in a world where there’s so much information flying at their face that they can’t sort through it.
Hell, even grown adults can’t seem to sort through it, unless they’re looking to cite some internet article to match how they think everyone else should live or feel or be.
My friends, I’m exhausted.
I care about your feelings. I care so deeply that I’m exhausted from worrying about those feelings. I care so deeply that seeing you hurt, makes my heart ache.
That’s part of being an empath. I’m back to having my intuitive nature guiding me again after taking some time to heal my heart and soul.
I forgot just how exhausting it can be when you’re around the wrong type of energy.
I just want everyone to realize that dividing and conquering is a thing.
I just want everyone to realize that some people say dumb crap without meaning to harm another person.
Educate. Discuss. Then let it be.
Some people don’t want to change to suit your needs or desires.
AND THAT IS PERFECTLY FINE.
I don’t want everyone to be or live how I think we should be, but I do wish everyone would stop telling everyone else how to live.
I know, I’m sort of telling you to stop something and if that’s who you are, then perhaps you take this as me telling you what to do.
I’m just tired and I miss the old days where we all got along and no one gave a crap about what your political affiliation was or whether you got vaccines or whether you spanked or didn’t spank your kids.
Do you get what I mean?
I just miss those good old days when we are all kind to each other, less judgemental, less easily offended and so on. It’s exhausting to me.
Listen, social media is an excellent tool to connect with long-distance friends and family. Social media is an excellent tool to make a living from your home. Social media does have some good, but I fear it’s given way too many of us a way to instantly comment and post things that are doing more harm than good to others and ourselves.
So in a world where everyone’s telling you what to do, I invite you to continue to be yourself! Do not conform to society’s status quo. Do not be someone you’re not.
If you enjoy filling up the newsfeed with taking offense, mean commentary and having updates that only fuel more divide, then go be you.
I just am tired is all.
Very. Very. Tired of seeing you this way.
My friends, you all weren’t always this way, which is why I have hope that something will change someday before it’s too late for us all.
Feeling Like You Don’t Fit In
If you don’t fit in with those on social media, then just post less frequently, don’t engage in conversations that clearly seem to be going in the opposite direction from what you believe.
Allow yourself the freedom to not live in a world where everyone’s telling you what to do.
Allow yourself the freedom to not get so darn offended about every single thing.
Be your own person.
Live your own life.
Away from the “Hollywood Lights” of social media.
Try it, you might like it!
It is not selfish to live life on your terms.
It’s about darn time more of us start living that way instead of worrying about how everyone else is speaking, what they’re doing or how they’re voting, please I beg of the world.
Please go back to that kind community that’s connected rather than divided. I want more of that.
I know that I’m thankful I took a step back, it’s helped me live a more intentional and peaceful life thus far in 2020.
And that, my friends, is all I want for you. I want you to reduce anxiety, reduce stress, and increase true happiness by choosing to spread the right messages instead of getting all upset by something someone on the internet said.
You’re better than that. I know, because I once saw that side of you. You weren’t always this easily offended or angered, please let’s try to unite not divide.
Brandy Ellen has been a blogger since 2008 and enjoys spending her free time with her family and making the most out of every moment she has. Brandy enjoys sharing personal stories, tips, and other advice based on real-life & work from home experiences to help others live a fulfilling life.