Letting go of Their Feelings

I am going to include this as part of my shadow work series, as it only seems fitting. While I am out in the world, living life, working, or sitting with a tree, I find that words come to me. These words I wrote in a notebook on August 30, 2025, and am glad to share them with you. May they resonate with you in some way, and perhaps help you climb out of the comfort zone, into the safety of your truer self …

You\’ll know that you\’re closer to the authentic you when you no longer feel an obligation to show up in a way that appeases others. This is not to say that you\’ll desire to show up in a painful way.

Make note of how your presence is making others feel, just do not hold their feelings as your own. Acknowledge them and ask how they are perceiving what you said … this way you can start to comprehend how you\’re being taken in by others.

This is not to change yourself FOR others at the expense of your peace. Rather, it is a new way to explore yourself. Knowing your # 1 North Star is part of knowing how you wish to show up, be seen as, and such in a way.

Let me try to be very clear, none of this is about trying to change yourself FOR others. We reside together on this planet, so it\’s important to learn what your unique piece of the puzzle is. In order to figure that out, you mus tlearn how others are perceiving you, so that you can adjust your words or presentatio in a manner that doesn\’t make you less than yourself, but also, allows other sto experience your magic in a way that allows your special gift of I AM to shine thorugh light into their hearts to pen their inner being to growth.

This allows us all to start to heal in connection to the whole while learning who we are individually, while cherishing the connection our individual nature creates or brings to the world.

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Brandy Tanner

I’m a certified Goal Success and Life Purpose Life Coach, Usui Reiki Master. I\’ve been blogging since 2008. I love sharing personal stories, tips, and other advice based on real-life experiences to help others live fulfilling lives.