If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again?
Conventional wisdom might suggest it’s not wise to get back together with an ex partner, but studies indicate that almost half of all couples who break up eventually do “backslide.” While it might be very tempting to try and rekindle an old flame, or to go after the “one who got away,” is it really a good idea to get back together with an ex? Here, we’ll consider a number of factors and help make this tricky decision a little easier:
Cause of Breakup
Some breakups are messy. They involve lots of hurt feelings, bruised egos, and maybe even a few screaming matches. On the other hand, some breakups feel almost clinical. Before you get back together with an ex, consider what caused you to call it quits in the first place. External factors –– like a demanding work schedule or a large spatial distance –– can change in a flash and provide you both with a viable second chance. Other issues, though –– like infidelity or incompatibility –– are unlikely to get resolved overnight.
Timing is everything. Two people might be great for each other, but they might simply meet at a time when one or both don’t prioritize a long-term partnership. After a few years, though, that could change. It’s relatively unlikely for someone to undergo a major lifestyle transformation in the space of a few weeks. Yet, over the course of a few years, almost anything is possible.
Ask yourself an important question before you take an ex back into your life: why? Why you want to get back together with someone can tell you a lot about your future prospects with them. If your only motivation is something trivial such as boredom or lust, then it’s probably not worth either of your time to try again. Still, if you find you have strong feelings for an ex, then your odds of success the second time around will probably increase.
Go With Your Gut
Your gut, your heart, your intuition –– whatever you want to call it –– is rarely wrong about relationships. It’s important to keep your emotions in check, sure, but you can’t look at a relationship in a strictly logical fashion –– human connections don’t work like that. Bottom line, if you feel like getting back with your ex is a good idea, then go for it. It’s always preferable to make an honest mistake than to pass up a great opportunity.
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