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That Kicked in the Gut Feeling

How to Help Someone with Anxiety

About ten years ago I started getting a strong anxiety attack whenever we were going to have visitors over. It was so sudden that it would strike before anyone had even parked in front of the house. I couldn’t tell if it was a fear of strangers, having a lot of people in my personal space, or what.

I knew that something had to be done about it before we had more guests over and even though it took some time, I managed to get rid of this unpleasant feeling for good.

So how did I do it? I’ll tell you in a bit, but first, let me give you a list of the things I tried and mostly failed at.

I ignored it and hoped that when the time came for guests to arrive that the feeling would just go away.

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This was what I tried in vain to do for many years. It never worked though because it’s impossible to will yourself not to feel something. I would fight this anxiety like it was the enemy, but eventually, I got tired of fighting against myself.

I tried to relax and take deep breaths in order to push out the anxiety before it would come up, but this only made things worse because if you try too hard then that’s what keeps the anxiety alive.

I tried to think happy thoughts, but this was a short term solution because I always came back to the same problem eventually. It just didn’t work for me because there was no actual solution in my mind, so any attempt to fix it would be fruitless.

I talked to friends about it and they told me that it would eventually go away on its own. They thought that I just needed more time and that’s what they told me to do: More time and things will get better.

This was also a temporary relief because I knew that something had to be done about this, but talking about it provided some comfort at first. It wasn’t really the solution, but because I tried so many things and nothing worked, it felt like a relief to talk about it with someone.

I tried to understand what it was that I feared, but the mind doesn’t always provide answers. There’s no way of knowing where this anxiety comes from because everything just feels like one big mess in your head.

Despite trying all of these things, nothing worked for very long because they were not real solutions to the problem. They helped me in the short term, but in the long run they always left me with more questions than answers. I was not getting to the root of the problem and that’s why these solutions never felt like real relief.

So here I am many years later and I have a feeling that you know what it feels like because you’re reading this article right now. Maybe you don’t know what it is that has been kicking in your gut and making you feel sick.

It might be something that started since childhood and just got worse over time, but at some point, you noticed this anxiety without even knowing where it came from.

It’s not an easy thing to live with when you don’t understand it, but I want you to know that there is hope because this feeling can be gone forever.

I don’t want to tell you what it was like for me, because I don’t think words will ever do justice to the experience. You need to feel it in order to understand just how hard it can be. But if for some reason I had to try and put it into words, I would say that this feeling was like drowning in an endless void where you couldn’t think straight.

I remember having real panic attacks when the anxiety would take over because just thinking about it made me feel sick.

Many people have asked me what I went through during those years, but how do you explain this feeling to someone who doesn’t understand where it comes from?

I tried explaining it to people, but what I was saying never felt like the right words. You can’t explain these kinds of feelings with language because there’s no way of knowing how they feel until you have been through them yourself.

One day though, things started to shift…

I’m not sure how it happened or what I did, but one day I had this urge to want to understand where the problem started. Some people would call this digging deep within yourself, but whatever you want to call it, that’s what happened and that’s when everything changed for me.

Once I was able to go back in time and see what was going on for me when I was younger, everything turned around.

It’s not easy to go back in time because you have to face your fears, but when you do that then you will be ready to take the next step. When the anxiety kicks in it can feel so real, but by being able to understand why it kicks in, the anxiety will start to fade away and you’ll be left with a different feeling.

I can’t exactly put my finger on what this new kind of feeling is, because I think it’s something we all experience but we just don’t know what it feels like.

The best way to find out though is if you start to go back in time and look at what was going on for you when you were younger. If you can get to the root of your anxiety, then it will start to fade away and a new feeling will replace the old one.

When I went back in time and saw that there was nothing wrong with me, we all know how that feels.

When I saw that what happened to me was not my fault, everything changed again. The feeling of real fear started to fade away and this time it stayed gone. The people around me did not change at all, but the difference was in how I felt about them.

Every day I see people who are suffering because they don’t understand why this anxiety is kicking in, but the problem is not with them. They are no different from you or me and if they can feel this anxious then anyone can feel it too.

If I have to explain what I’m talking about here, then it’s because I understand how you’re feeling. That’s why even though I know that what I’m going to say will not be understood, it doesn’t matter because the only thing that matters is what you’re going through right now.

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The problem isn’t with anyone else because everyone who has this anxiety is doing the best they can, but no matter how hard they try, it’s still there. This feeling of real fear can be called “anxiety” but the name doesn’t matter because it’s all the same thing.

Anxiety is something that everyone can feel, but what you don’t know yet is that this feeling has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Your life will not be destroyed by anxiety just like your life was not created by it because these are just words that describe what you are going through right now.

In conclusion, that kicked in the gut feeling is real and it’s a legitimate feeling. If you ignore it for too long it will go away and you’ll find yourself unable to rust any gut instinct that flies your way again.

The only way I was able to push through this, was to seek therapy and get help to learn roe about ME and how I WORK. This is all about you, the process won’t be easy, but man, you will finally feel some relief when you work through the steps to relearn life with minimal anxiety!

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How to Rebuild Yourself Without Stressing

In the first week of the new year, we kick off our resolutions by promising ourselves that this is going to be the best year yet. It can be easy to make promises to improve yourself, but keeping true to them when life gets in the way can prove difficult.

That’s why I’m bringing you some tips, tricks, and advice to help you rebuild yourself after dealing with bad relationships, toxic friendships, and family dramas. While this may not be YOUR reason for not sticking to those promises to yourself, they are my reasons, and quite often they are someone else’s reasons, too.

Change is hard but it doesn’t have to be impossible; if you feel like your life has been turned upside-down by a bad breakup or a nasty conflict with another person in your life, this guide will show you how to keep your head up and start rebuilding yourself.

I’m going to focus on three main areas of your life that may be affected after being in a toxic situation: self-esteem, friendships/relationships, and success.

Self-Esteem

Let’s start with the basis of your foundation: self-esteem. After a bad breakup, a nasty fight with your family, or any conflict that has you reeling in pain and anguish, the hardest thing to do is lift yourself back up. It can be difficult after being hurt by someone else to even get out of bed in the morning.

When I was going through my worst relationship ever, it felt impossible sometimes just to brush my teeth, let alone pick myself back up. When he was removed from our rental property, I felt a little relief but then went back into feeling lost, completely lost, and depleted.

I know it’s hard but you have to get past your feelings and focus on making yourself happier again. Here are some tips for rebuilding self-esteem after a bad situation.

Do little things for yourself. Like I said, it’s hard to do anything sometimes but you have to start somewhere.

If you can’t bring yourself to get out of bed or take a shower yet because you don’t want to face the world, that’s okay. Start small. Brush your teeth, go for a walk around the block, get dressed.

These little things will help you start feeling better about yourself and give you more motivation to do something productive during your day-to-day life.

Avoid Negativity

Avoid comparisons or putting down others that are still in a relationship/have friends. It’s hard not to compare yourself to others and it’s easy to get lost in feeling sorry for yourself, but don’t do this. It will only make you feel more negative and cause you to be stuck in this pit of despair you’re already in.

Use positive affirmations! I’m a huge fan of the book The Secret and have even used it to help me get through some of the most difficult times in my life. I have this affirmation board that I put up every morning during a rough time and it reminds me to think positively about myself and my life.

Make sure your environment is a positive one, too. Reread those affirmations you have posted around your home or office and you’ll start feeling better.

Focus on Your Friendships/Relationships

After going through a hard time in your life, it’s easy to want to wallow and keep all of that negativity around. This is okay for the first week or two but eventually, you need to find a way out of this darkness. As I said before, avoid the temptation to compare yourself to others or putting down other people because you’re feeling sad.

One of the best steps you can take for your relationships after going through a difficult time is to devote more time to them than usual. Whether it’s calling up that friend you haven’t talked to in months or asking if they want to get together for coffee, make the effort to build that relationship back up.

You’ll feel better about yourself and you never know when a little help from your friends will go a long way. Seriously! This is super important!!

My friend, Heidi, was there for me nearly immediately afterward and even during the court process when I was recovering from an unhealthy relationship. I’m forever grateful for her help during my picking myself back up chapter!

Set New Goals in Your Life

It’s one thing to reconnect with old friends or strengthen relationships but what you should do is set new goals.

I know, I know, you feel terrible about yourself and don’t think that you can accomplish much of anything but trust me when I say it’ll help you. Setting new goals will give your life a purpose again and allow you to start thinking positively about the future instead of drowning in the past.

There is no set timeline for how long it will take to rebuild your life after a bad situation but there are steps you can take every day that will help.

I’ve gone through the same or similar thing as you so I know how hard it is but don’t let yourself get stuck in this pit of despair. Every single person has their own light and it’s up to you to find yours again.

Just remember, you are a strong and beautiful person and it’s okay to go through difficult times. Just focus on rebuilding yourself and you’ll find yourself right where you want to be – back in the light.

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Can Your Gut Feeling Be Wrong?

Do you try to listen to your gut instinct as often as possible? Listening to what your inner mind tells you is important, but you’re likely wondering if there is ever a chance for your gut feeling to be wrong.

Coming to grips with what your intuition is trying to tell you and why is the key to better understanding whether your gut feeling is correct or not.

Recognizing and Understanding Intuition Warning Signs

Some people are more intuitive than others. If you’re highly intuitive, pay attention to these common intuition warning signs that you may begin experiencing when doing different things. Whether you’re at home, out with friends, or even shopping at a grocery store, you may start to experience some of these signs:

  • You’re constantly having thoughts about something in particular. If you keep thinking about something specific, even when you’re not trying to do so, it may be your gut instinct trying to tell you something. Comprehending the message is what’s most important.
  • You’re having the same dream on more than one occasion. Do you have dreams that include the same people, places, and things a lot? Your subconscious mind may be trying to tell you something important. Most people won’t have the same dream on multiple occasions unless their intuition tells them something they need to know.
  • You get a strange feeling in your stomach that tells you something is wrong. Is it normal for you to get a strange sensation in your stomach when doing something? It feels like you’ve been kicked in the gut. You may suddenly start to feel a slight bit of panic and concern. It doesn’t mean something will happen now, but it does mean that your gut instinct is trying to protect you from what could happen.
  • You’re starting to feel uneasy when put in certain situations. Some situations may instantly make you feel uncomfortable. When you get that feeling, it’s essential to get out of those situations for your own good.
  • Your impulsivity is at an all-time high. Are you suddenly starting to act impulsively without regret? You may start feeling this way because of what your intuition tells you and makes you feel.
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Is It Possible for the Gut Feeling to Be Wrong?

When you have that gut instinct, you may choose to act on it. You’re trusting yourself and your intuition to lead you in the right direction. Now, is it possible for that gut instinct to be wrong? Of course. The truth is that your intuitions are correct, especially when you’re in tune with that side of yourself. 

However, it’s your reaction and the emotions you start to experience that can make it seem like your gut instinct was wrong. For example, you may have a feeling about something and then overreact to it without knowing more about the situation. It doesn’t mean that your gut feeling was wrong in any way. It does mean that your reaction to that instinct was wrong.

How to Improve Your Intuitive Experiences

If you’ve been wrong in the past and would like to improve your intuitive experiences, there are several steps you can take.

Meditate More Often

Try to find more time to meditate. When you meditate, you become one with yourself. You learn to listen to your intuition and the gut instincts you’re experiencing while reacting appropriately to those feelings.

Don’t Act on Impulse

Just because you’re feeling something doesn’t mean you need to act impulsively. Trust your instinct, but don’t rush into doing anything, especially if you’re feeling uncertain. Try to resonate with the way you feel before taking actions related to the gut instinct that you’re experiencing.

Use Your Senses

Use the five senses to your advantage. When you’re breathing in that fresh air, paying attention to your surroundings, and just generally using sight, sound, touch, and more, it will help you connect better with your intuitive side.

Keep Track of Your Dreams

Some people easily remember their dreams, and others don’t. If you have vivid dreams, jot the details down in a notebook as soon as you get up in the morning. When you keep track of your dreams, it becomes easier to see if you’re experiencing repetition when it comes to where you’re at and who you’re seeing while sleeping. You can use that information to figure out what your intuition is trying to tell you.

When you have a gut instinct, it’s usually right, but that doesn’t mean your reaction to the intuition is always the right one. Improve your intuitive side by paying close attention to your dreams, using your senses to understand better what goes on around you, and meditating as often as possible.

Even if you’re not highly intuitive now, it doesn’t mean you won’t be in the future when you’ve taken the proper steps to improve your intuitive experiences. It’s all about tapping into that side of yourself.

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Signs You’re Listening to Your Intuition


Do you have a good intuition? Do you feel like you listen to your intuition well enough? Sometimes, trusting that gut instinct is the best way to avoid negative situations while staying in a positive mindset.

If you’re not sure whether you’re listening to your intuition or not, these are a few signs that you are doing just that.

Pay attention to the signs and consider making some changes if you’re not trusting in yourself and your intuition. Let’s talk about how to get around the kicked in the gut feeling!

You Can Feel the Emotions of Others Around You

Intuitive people tend to feel the emotions of others around them. While listening to your intuition and getting in touch with that side of yourself, you may notice that it’s becoming easier for you to sense the emotions of others. You may find it easy to tell when someone feels angry, frustrated, stressed, or sad.

Understanding the emotions of others is important. It helps you relate more to the people around you while acting accordingly. Your intuition is likely to allow you to pick up on the emotions around you from people of all walks of life, including strangers that you’ve never met before.

You Tend to Experience That Kicked in the Gut Feeling

If you experience that kicked in the gut feeling more often than not, there is a good chance that you’re listening to your intuition and paying attention to the way your body feels about doing different things. You may feel like you’re being kicked in the gut over something that is going on.

The feeling occurs for several reasons. It may happen because you’re feeling anxious about something that you’re going to do. You might experience this feeling because you’re afraid of someone or something.

No matter the cause of such a feeling, it’s your intuition sending those signals to you. It’s up to you to interpret what your intuition is trying to tell you based on the situation.

You Have a Good Feeling When Doing Something Positive in Your Life

People who listen to their intuition often feel a sense of excitement and pure joy when they’re doing something positive. It’s like their body knows that they’re making progress when doing something or taking the proper steps to achieve their goals. It gives them a sense of euphoria and pure pleasure.

If you often have a good feeling after accomplishing something, your intuition makes you feel that way. This really helps me get rid of that kicked in the gut feeling.

You May Experience a Bad Feeling About Certain People, Places, or Things

Listening to your intuition is important when you’re around the wrong people or when you find yourself in bad places. If you suddenly get a bad feeling when you’re dealing with certain people, traveling to specific areas, or even going through certain things, there is a reason for it.

Your intuition is trying to tell you something.

As a result, your heart may start beating fast, you might begin to feel dizzy, and you can even end up feeling like you’re going to vomit. Some people experience the shakes and feelings of pure nervousness over a bad feeling that they’re having.

If this sounds like what you go through most of the time, even when nothing appears to be going wrong, it’s likely your intuition giving you a warning.

You’re Taking Your Time to Make Important Decisions Instead of Acting on Impulse

If you’re listening to your intuition, you’re not going to act impulsively. You’ll take your time to make careful decisions that will benefit you instead of rushing into anything. Those who don’t use their intuition are more compulsive and often get themselves into situations without thinking about what could go wrong or what types of consequences they could face.

If you know that you spend plenty of time considering the pros and cons of different situations before making any decisions, you’re definitely listening to your intuition. You’re willing to go with what you feel on the inside. When you get that feeling to wait to do something or suddenly feel like you need to do more research beforehand, it’s because of your intuition.

Why You Should Listen to Your Intuition

Listening to your intuition is vital for your overall well-being. If you learn to trust in yourself, you won’t have to stress over situations nearly as much as you did before.

You can become more self-aware and mindful while doing different things and making decisions based on situations you’ll come across in life. Listening to your intuition will help you get rid of that kicked in the gut feeling.

Now that you’re aware of the signs of listening to your intuition, would you say that you’re trusting yourself? If not, it’s something you should work on by taking small steps. It’s never too late to start connecting with your intuition.

If you’re struggling to make that connection, try writing in a journal, meditating, and going for long walks by yourself to clear your mind and build that connection.