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The Knock-On Effects Of Mental Health Issues You Should Address

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Whether you’re dealing with depression, and anxiety disorder, PTSD, or something else, it’s important to be aware of the multi-faceted effects that mental health troubles can have on your life. Here, we’re going to look at some of the risks you should be keeping an eye on, and what you can do to prevent more damage than necessary.

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Lack of self-care

When you’re feeling down on yourself, or you’re simply feeling like you are lacking in energy, then it’s all too easy to let even simple self-care habits slip. This can include taking care of your hygiene, grooming, getting dressed, cleaning your environment, eating proper meals, or staying indoors all day. Sometimes, even a little reminder or incentive can help you take that step to take care of yourself, which can help you feel better like yourself, and apps like Aloe Bud can offer the gentle reminders that you might need.


You might feel like you wouldn’t be very good company or maybe concerned about burdening others with your problems, but self-isolation is one of the single worst things you can do for your mental health in both the short-term and long term. Having people to talk to and to share with is not just important for your immediate mood, but even plays a role in preventing issues like dementia. If you’re having trouble reaching out to people around you, there are services like 7 Cups that can help you get talking to someone, at least.

Self-medication as a coping mechanism

If you have started using any mood-altering substances to address your mental state, even as simple as alcohol or cigarettes, then this is a problem that needs to be addressed. While it may feel like an immediate fix, it will contribute to the root problem growing much, much larger over time, which is why centers like Sunshine Behavioral Health treat both the dependency and the mental health root causes at the same time. If you can recognize yourself going down this slope, even a little, it’s best to stop and ask for help.

Spending too much time on social media

Social media addiction is not a problem that solely affects those who are struggling, by any means. However, a lot of people will intentionally use it as a “mind-numbing” pastime to help them forget about their problems for a while. However, institutes like Intenet Addicts Anonymous have found that social media addiction can be a serious problem, leading to worsening mental health, as well as being all too effective at draining your time and preventing you from taking care of what responsibilities you might normally be on top of.

The above points are not there to make you feel bad about any mental health problems you might be dealing with, but a call to help you recognize some of the impacts it can have on your life. While you continue to treat and fight against the problem at the root of it, you should also consider what you can do to treat the surface-level effects, too.

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My Personal Best Tips to Enjoy Adulthood

I live in a world where everyone is free to be who they wish to be. I live in a world where we have the right to speak how we choose and do what we choose. You see, I live in the United States of America.

Of course, this is not to say that I’m free from the consequences of said choices. I simply enjoy having the freedom and liberty to make such decisions. Should an undesirable outcome occur, I use my freedom of thought and choice to make a new decision.

And I repeat this concept again. Over and over. Every Day.

Yes, life is that simple, in my humble opinion.

Perhaps this is why I get to enjoy adulthood a bit more. I feel emotions, but I tend to lean more into what ‘feels right’. NO, this isn’t to say I always stay in my comfort zone, no no! Rather, I take the time to pause and reflect more frequently.

I see things around me. I notice how my body language is, how my stomach feels, etc.

I notice my angel numbers showing here and there guiding me forward, letting me know that those around me, those I cannot see, are here confirming that I’m making the right choices; be them good or not-so-good, it’s the right choice given the current circumstances is how I see it.

Well now that you know a little bit about how I can enjoy adulthood I want to show you how you can enjoy adulthood a bit more, too!

Relax Your Emotional Response

Listen, you cannot control how someone else feels about you, how they treat you, or how they respond to you. You can’t control what enters your life. You can’t control the ups and downs of your unpredictable life patterns.

This simple fact helps me stay calm in chaos, and make decisions that better align with the future I desire, rather than go with whatever emotional tugging I get in the moment.

Here’s an example of how Emotions Can Take us Down the Wrong Path

I may feel lonely and as if my husband doesn’t understand me. I wish he’d only do this or that more often, or that he’d do this differently. I feel upset. I feel hurt. He, however, sees it a bit differently. He made dinner so I could get work done. He put gas in so I didn’t have to do that in the cold. He gives me a hug every morning because he loves me.

I can understand from his perspective how he can’t fathom the idea of me feeling lonely. However, we’ve been around each other for many many many years, he knows when I’m feeling this way. So perhaps, his extra steps to help like doing the dishes or making dinner, are his “silent” ways of showing he loves me rather than saying he loves me in words.

I could respond with emotions and ruin a relationship that matters to both of us, and matters to our children, OR I can take the simpler ground and realize that today these things are bothering me but tomorrow they won’t again. I can pause and see if my feelings towards him are coming from something missing internally or are truly issues I have with him.

Oftentimes, I find that my emotions are more about something I’ve been neglecting within myself. We all need to keep our cups closer to full than empty and recognize that others who love us are trying to carefully help in their own way. While keeping your emotions in check is your job, keeping the external life in a simpler perspective can help you enjoy adulthood more often.

Make a Schedule

I know making a schedule doesn’t sound so fun to others, but I am at my most joyous time in life when I have a routine in place. I lost that routine as my hub’s started his own business and enlisted my help with it. I lost that routine as the chaos ensued around the holidays, and sickness seasons, etc.

BUT at the end of 2021, I found myself recognizing that I am a person who needs a routine. Prior to having children, I was a spontaneous person and I wanted so badly to bring that chick back … especially now that my most routine-driven kid is older and doesn’t seem to need a super solid routine.

However, the funny thing is that now I need a routine and structure more than ever before. Having a daily routine with a time schedule using Asana, and Coschedule for other things truly helps me feel more stable. I feel confident. I feel like I have a purpose. I feel amazing.

All because I decided to let go of that old me who desired spontaneity like over 15 years ago, and embrace the person I am today at 40 years old. A woman who loves being a mom, who loves running her own freelance writing business, and also loves having a routine.

So perhaps, you may find some joy these days by simply making a schedule! I use Asana for tasks and Coschedule for social media and writing stuff. You can use Cozi for personal family stuff and other options to schedule your days. See if a schedule helps you learn how to enjoy adulthood better, too!

Live Aligned with What Makes You Feel Whole

I am a firm believer that we need to believe in something bigger than ourselves to get through in this life. Whether you’re a Christian, Catholic, or just a spiritual person who believes in the power of one conscious being or something like that, having some sort of belief system is what helps a human feel whole.

If you think about it, someone who thinks they are all there is to life and doesn’t think their life is that great may just struggle a bit more than someone who believes they are a part of something larger than themselves. Make sense? If not, ponder on it a bit …

Living a life that makes you feel whole is not all about doing things you love every second of the day. It’s not about pushing aside other people’s needs, especially if you’re in a committed relationship or parent. Living aligned with what makes you feel whole is more about creating a schedule that includes those things that make you feel joy.

For me, I like to walk, read, write, and spend quality time with my kids. As my kids got older I started to feel this sense of something missing, and that’s because I focused all of my energy on being a Mama. That’s what was needed, and it brought me joy but now my mama duties have adjusted so I need to live more aligned with today’s lifestyle – which allows me to walk, read, and write more often.

In conclusion, learning how to enjoy adulthood will look different for each of us, but ultimately we each have of our own issues to work through. We have to muddle through the ways we respond, how we feel and why we feel during various situations, and how we can overcome things that hurt us.

Sometimes just being able to write it out, talk it through, or get some Quality Therapy can help us see how our emotions have been holding us back simply because we ‘thought we were that person’ or we ‘thought we had to still be that other person’. Life changes, and so do we – we’re ever-evolving, or at least we should be.

I hope that something I shared today resonates with you and that you’re better able to enjoy adulthood a little more in the coming days. If you have your own tips on how to enjoy adulthood, please do leave a comment below. I’d love to hear what has helped you, together we’re stronger!

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How To Help Someone Who Is In Crisis

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When you love somebody – whether they are a friend, a lover or a family member – it is painful to watch them go through a crisis. We all experience unpredictable moments in our lives; it could be a divorce, the loss of a loved one, a career shift, or an identity crisis. Witnessing somebody close to you go through this can be difficult, but there are ways to help them without getting sucked into the pain yourself.

In this post, we’ll explore strategies for helping someone who can’t cope. We’ll give you tips and tricks for speaking to them, as well as acts of service you can perform that will help them in a big way.

Listen, don’t project

One of the most common mistakes that people make when dealing with a person in crisis, is project their own issues. If you feel you have gone through something similar, your first reaction might be to tell them about the time you went through that awful thing that happened a few years ago. This is super tempting, because you might think you’re being helpful – but the majority of the time, in the moment, projecting your own problems only makes you seem self-centred.

There is a time for sharing stories and relating to each other; this time usually comes when the dust has settled, and the person is on their way to recovering from whatever went on. In the moment of crisis, the best thing is to just be there. Listen. Don’t judge, don’t project, just be a sponge for whatever is going on.

Support them vocally

When a person is going through a change in their life – perhaps a divorce, perhaps a job loss, or even something more concrete like a sexuality or gender shift – it is important to be vocally supportive. Often, people say things like, ‘They know I’m always there for them!’ – but if you haven’t actually said it, the person might feel rejected or ignored.

If you know someone who is going through something difficult, reach out. You could send them a kind email or letter, or even buy a support badge if the moment relates (such as if your loved one comes out as gay or transgender). You can find supportive emblems and badges at

Offer small gestures

Often, acts of service are the best way to support somebody. If they are having an emotional crisis, they are likely seeking professional help in the form of a therapist or counsellor, or even speaking with their doctor about medications.

In that case, you don’t need to be a therapist for that person. Instead, offer practical help. This can be in the form of cooking meals, helping them clean their home, walking the dog, or even popping round for a cup of tea to keep them company. Small gestures matter hugely when someone is having a crisis.

Final thoughts…

Crises are very difficult to overcome, but with the right strategy, you can help someone you love get past this challenging time.

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Tips for Handling Negative Comments on Social Media

When you’re running a page on social media, whether it’s for yourself or your business, you can expect to get comments throughout the days and weeks from different people. Some of these comments will put a smile on your face as people leave compliments and say positive things to you.

However, not all comments are good. Some people leave negative comments on social media for various reasons. For example, they might not agree with something you’re doing or saying, or they might feel jealous and want to take that out on you. No matter the cause of the negativity, knowing how to handle these types of comments is a must.

Here are a few tips on responding to opinions!

Keep It Positive

When responding to the opinions of others, try to keep it professional and upbeat. You don’t have to agree with their negativity or the things they’re saying, but you can shut it down by responding with a decent response.

If it’s a complaint about something business-related, address the concern and see what you can do to make the situation better. If it’s someone who has a different opinion than you, let them know that they’re entitled to their opinion. It’s better to take the high road than get into a verbal altercation online with people you don’t know and may never see in person.

Your response to their commentary says a lot about you as a person. It shows others that you’re mature enough to respond politely instead of getting angry or argumentative with random people.

Don’t Let It Get You Down

It’s normal to feel upset by something negative commented on your social media. It’s not easy to handle comments from people who don’t agree with you or have nothing nice to say about you, your business, or your way of life. It tends to hurt even more when people decide to pick on your physical appearance, making jabs about how you look, what you wear, or even how you apply your makeup.

But, of course, you’re only human, and it’s normal to feel sad when someone has something negative to say, but don’t let it ruin your day. Remember, people who talk badly about others are miserable within themselves. They’re not happy with their lives, so they decide to take their anger out on others. It’s not worth getting upset or out of character over. An opinion is just an opinion, and you don’t have to agree with it.

Delete the Negativity and Block People When Necessary

When you have a social media presence online, the negativity can get out of hand at times. But, unfortunately, online trolls exist. These people often create fake pages to victimize others, hurling insults at them to make them feel unimportant and as if their opinions don’t matter. Dealing with trolls is difficult. Even though you know they’re hiding behind a screen and aren’t willing to show who they are when they’re being bullied; it still hurts to think that someone could be so mean.

Sometimes, the best thing to do is delete the negativity and block the individuals making such horrible comments. While they might make new accounts and try again to leave negative comments, the block button exists for a reason. Use it to your advantage to block negativity from your life and your social media pages. You don’t need to leave anyone on your page who has bad things to say about you and your opinions.

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Spread Positivity to Others

Make an effort to spread positivity on social media. When you’re kind to others, you’re more likely to receive that same level of kindness back. While there will still be trolls here and there, the positive will outweigh any negativity sent your way. Create a safe space within your social media community for people to talk openly, discuss different opinions, and have fun without judgment. It’s okay to speak your mind and have different thoughts, but there’s a right way and a wrong way to discuss those opinions. If you’re ever responding to views of others on any social media site, such as Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, or TikTok, think before you speak and remember to keep it professional.

Handle the Negative Comments Like a Pro

If you’re using social media and posting regularly, expect to get some negative comments from time to time. While the good outweighs the bad, the negativity can get you down. Know how to handle it without getting worked up. Don’t let the opinions of others impact you or your way of living.

Understand that people think and feel differently. Spread positivity on your platform, keep a positive mindset and delete or block anyone who starts posting negative stuff on your posts and photos. Once you start thinking this way, you’ll no longer worry about the negative people who have toxic things to say online.