I stopped oversharing on social media and this is what happened. I will be quite honest with you right now, if not for needing social media to earn a living – I wouldn’t be on it anymore.
I learned a hard lesson about oversharing on social media when I finally got unstuck from an unhealthy relationship.
Oversharing on social media can totally mess up your mental health. You keep looking to see if that specific family member or friend “hearted” your post or not.
That thumbs up on Facebook starts ruling your world, and when that special family member or friend doesn’t “like” your status, or what you shared, it starts to hurt.
Anxiety goes crazy and it’s just a horrible downhill battle from there.
I know you all know what I’m talking about!
We sometimes rate or worth on those likes and hearts on social media.
Yes, even those of us who know that little like or heart on social media doesn’t matter as much as our real-life connections.
It bugs us from time to time.
I made a decision after my unhealthy relationship to stop oversharing on social media. Sure I still love sharing photos of our adventures with the kids, and things like that.
I just don’t share as many personal details of my relationship or private life as I used to.
Because to me, that’s not oversharing, that’s maintaining a connection to my audience who will in turn click over to my blogs to read about these different locations we visit and learn more about how they can have fun adventures too.
What I do share on social media is also about maintaining a connection to people I consider real friends, even if we’ve never met.
I simply have started to pull back with what I share about my personal life on the internet.
Again, I use social media to make money and earn a living to support my family.
I am not on there to get judged, have too many opinions shared or wonder who is gossiping to someone else about my life.
If I don’t share it, then there’s nothing to talk about behind my back during your gossip sessions or whatnot.
If I don’t share it, then there’s nothing for anyone to share their uninvited opinion about. Let’s face it, if you share something personal on social media then you’re opening yourself up to tips, advice, and opinions on your personal life.
Okay, now that I’m done rambling, do you want to know the benefits that you can get when you stop oversharing on social media?
Get ready … get set … here you go!
The Benefits of Not Over Sharing on Social Media
You Stop the Comparison Game
Whether you want to admit it or not, there are occasions when you compare yourself with someone else. YOu see their happy photos traveling to all these places, and their smiling kids wondering why in the world your kids won’t smile like that? And that perhaps you’re doing something wrong.
When you stop oversharing on social media you stop that comparison game and start to appreciate what you do have in life without worrying about how it “ranks” compared to your social media friends’ life.
Privacy Is Returned
One of the biggest reasons why I stopped oversharing on social media was because I have a restraining order on my ex. It’s now a “no contact” order for another 2-3 years or something as part of his parole/probation, but this is a huge part what stopped me from oversharing on social media.
When you stop oversharing private parts of your life, you see that your privacy is returned. You feel happier and healthier because you have something to hold close – a personal life that’s NOT on the internet.
Anxiety Goes Down
I found that when I put a limit on what I share on social media as well as the time spent on social media, my anxiety is better. I don’t worry about if that family member is upset with me or if that friend is not my friend anymore because i”m not on social media looking for their “comment or like”.
Another reason I think anxiety goes down when you stop oversharing on Facebook is that you’re no longer scrolling through the feed as often, which can make you see things that upset you.
Get Over FOMO
FOMO, or the ‘Fear of Missing Out’, is something I’ve only heard of. I don’t have FOMO because I’m pretty happy with my introvert-ish lifestyle and my own family here in real life. However, a lot of people on social media have this FOMO which can cause stress and anxiety.
When you stop oversharing on social media, your FOMO starts to dissipate until you’re over that whole fear of missing out on something on the internet because you’re living your best life without broadcasting it.
For me, when I stopped oversharing on social media I felt like I regained control of my life. I no longer feel the need to explain my lifestyle, my relationship, my parenthood, nothing. I feel free to live life and enjoy every minute without having to go on social media and share some updates.
I feel free for the first time in many years and I can thank the benefits of not oversharing on social media for this new feeling of freedom!
How do you not overshare on social media?
Now that you’ve read the benefits of not oversharing on social media, do you want to know how to refrain from oversharing on social media?
Here are some tips to guide you forward in sharing less on social media for a more positive experience in life:
- Uninstall the social media apps from your smartphone.
- Put all push notifications to silent or “no” for social media.
- Do not start your day on social media.
- Pause before posting on social media whenever you’re feeling negative, sad, or angry.
- Allot a specific time of day to use social media, and don’t access social media during the other parts of your day.
- Text a friend or call a friend, instead of posting on social media.
I hope that my list of benefits of not oversharing on social media will inspire you to start living a happier life. Let go of the need to share a photo of everything in life. Start living for the moment and put that smartphone down so that you can remain present and intentional in your daily life.
When you start to limit the amount of information you share on social media, you’ll start to feel happier and have stronger bonds with those you spend time with in real life.
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Brandy Ellen has been a blogger since 2008 and enjoys spending her free time with her family and making the most out of every moment she has. Brandy enjoys sharing personal stories, tips, and other advice based on real-life & work from home experiences to help others live a fulfilling life.