You start talking to someone from your past, perhaps it\’s an old friend or partner. As you listen to them speak, and you start to have dialogue, you realize that you have somehow magically slipped into old patterns.
You hold onto what they say, you start to think, maybe what they say is true. And then you remember, your Spirit Guides come to you with a message that you must learn this lesson now.
Please for the love of all things living, you must pause and take note that the patterns are exactly the same. Remember, actions are greater than words, and this my friends is where I begin my message today for you.
You have changed.
Have you noticed that people have either changed a lot or not changed at all? You find yourself longing for connection but realize that the growth you\’ve made means you don\’t belong there anymore.
Those who once were your friends or connections in some way can\’t comprehend what you\’re saying, and if they can understand at some level, they aren\’t having it. Rather, they are nice to your face and speak ill behind your back as if they don\’t realize that we are all spiritually connected and you just know – for you have tuned into your Spirit Guides – and they gently nudge you into the knowing.
With all that being said, I know that it makes me sad when I see old connections who I once thought were real connections who cared, are someone else. Whether it\’s the media, life experiences, or their newfound beliefs, or spending too much time in the darker side of humanity without grounding to Mother Gaia … there seems to be a commonality among many humans that I once saw a light in – they are drained, exhausted, and just not grounded properly.
They\’ve changed.
That is what I thought, at first. I thought perhaps they had changed, and that\’s why we no longer feel connected to each other. This is why I no longer feel united with them, or loved by them, or whatever it was we once had feels as though it\’s missing.
It made sense at first; these humans have changed. They are being so rigid in their belief system that is being used to manipulate and divide us, that I don\’t fit in because … they have changed.
It must the the right answer …
Right?
Wrong!
I\’ve changed.
After time and time again I saw my old friends online, or tried to reconnect with them in messaging to see how they are doing, I was left with one answer for each of them: that they have somehow changed.
But then, my lovely Spirit Guides nudged me into this downloaded message that it isn\’t them – it is me. I have changed. I pray daily, at least twice. I smile at strangers, much like I always have. I no longer place my love and emotions fully on expectations; that\’s fairly new.
I have this burning desire to help others, and I feel peaceful more days than not; that is VERY new.
Here\’s the problem that I faced recently, though: I reconnected with some parts of my past. I started allowing their version of their perceptions to hold space in my mind, for just a moment, okay, so it was longer, maybe a few weeks.
I started to spiral. I felt crazy. I felt emotions that I felt previously where I was like, \”umm no this is what happened and we can\’t change that\” and then my Spirit Guides reminded me where I am at, the hard work I\’ve done and how I must not lose the lessons I\’ve learned during these seasons of life.
I was reminded to hold to my belief system that two stories won\’t be aligned, that somewhere in the middle is the reality, but my emotions, I feel, are very valid.
God reminded me that there is a moral values compass mismatch here, and that\’s unacceptable to go down – \”you know better,\” I swear they were telling me — nothing like being \”scolded,\” so to speak, by the spiritual world. I am grateful for this soul-full connection, though.
I value family and honest, deep connections.
My kids. My people that I call family, both blood and non-blood relations. Those who are my soul fam – just getting to find these special people. And so much more – the ones who have this light without conditions, and show up in this way as often as they can while staying grounded to Mother Earth.
These … these are my true community members, and this is what I am here for. I am here to pray for those who seem to be stuck in something. I am here to not judge what they view as their truth, but rather be curious about it from a distance.
I am here to set boundaries without speaking them, and I am here to show up in action with good intentions without expectations of anything in return.
This, my friends, is how I know that it isn\’t them, it is me.
I have changed.
I am grateful that it is me. I am so blessed to continue changing, adapting, and trusting God with my path. Most days I flow along just fine, and other days, my human monkey brain tries to play around … but I always lay my head down to rest with a prayer for Self and Others with love in my heart and good intentions in my soul.
My advice to you is to pay close attention to those who realize that there are three sides to a story – theirs, mine, and then the middle where more of the reality lies. Those who know that we cannot go backwards to fix things, that we must go forward and use the lessons in today\’s season of life to bettering those who can be better today.
Mistakes are made for a reason. Choices are made for a reason, and if you dig deep enough within, some of the \”recent trauma\” patterns are more so to do with a deep inner healing session you need to work on than that particular situation.
Let me be very clear here, though, just because some experiences have more to do with healing older wounds that perhaps stem from childhood, does not condone the actions of someone else. This isn\’t about them at all (they will have a life in review session much like you will at the end of their human experience) – it is about you – in case that message wasn\’t clear.
Remember, your situations and emotions are valid, but you don\’t have to cling to them, and for the love of all things … please don\’t repeat them. Dig deeper. Chat with a habit changing coach – like me today.
Much love. 💛